AMALGAMATION- THE PERFECT “KHICHDI”

ARRANGED MARRIGE:

Arranged marriage is a very common way of having long or short term legal relationships with a known or unknown family in India. It is a concept which begins with happiness and ends in turmoil and tension, not always though. Marriage is a sacred institution where two people along with their families come together to make a bond which supposedly gives them happiness.

Arranged marriages have a varied concept in different parts of the world. In India, they are usually an example of remaining in culture and making family ties with in the same cultural background or ethnicity. As India is suffocated with a varied variety of cultural diversity, there are different ethnic groups from which result different kind of marriages.

In India an arranged marriage is considered to be the best for two families as parents have an upper hand and can scrutinize the to be bride and groom respectively. They also hold the right to call off a marriage if the “needs and demands” aren’t fulfilled. With arranged marriages come the extra benefit of dowry and where else but in a large chunk of Indian landmass can this be seen?

With the tradition of haldi, mehndi and jaimaal, come the extra tension of giving away the girl and overtly agony struck parents and relatives can be seen. It is not like love marriages are the most happiest and successful marriages in the world or even India for that matter, but in many cases love marriages save the pain of dowry and bring the extra ethnicity under the same roof (as in many cases the bride and groom are from a different ethnic background). Though statistics say that love marriages are less successful than arranged, people love to go against the rule.

Media plays a very good and important part in getting marriages in and out of place. With the extra hype that media gives every agenda these days, if an actor or celebrity is even considering buying a ring that would end up as breaking news. Heard of honour killings- a very non conceptualised and illogical option according to everyone but the bride and groom?

Arranged marriages are an ego boost to everyone including the elders in a family and putting aside the Bollywood drama everyone considers it a necessity. Media plays an active role in giving a very durable imprint to this ego and highlighting it without considering a fall or a rise in anyone’s status or family matters. Till date media has done more harm to the “fame” than good as far as projecting this scared institution is considered.

POLITICS:

A theory which deals with power and its overuse which brings extra ordinary fame either in positive or negative light. Right from college addas to husband wife relationships, agony aunts to bosses, politics is seen everywhere. And limiting one self’s knowledge to the overly ambitious and “useful” politicians of India is bad idea!

Politics is a phenomenon one addresses and experiences right from the lower kindergarten. Even if a kid is unaware of it then, later on in life he/she would re collect an incident which reminded them of politics. Going by the most common belief in India, politics is a gutter which no one really wishes to clean up. It is a perfect example of an oxymoron- amazingly pathetic and not only for an oxymoron it has defined many other figures of speech of the English language in an absolute perfect sense.

When the classification of living beings was done, the theory of politics was used there as well. Even the ants and bees have political brains though division of labour is the best terminology that fits there. But with the advent of who is to collect food and who is rest and lay eggs, the queen bee does rule to dictate her power.

Form the flyovers that we travel on, to the drinking water that helps us wash our buffalos, politicians have kept their word in doing a great deal of Politics happens to be the favourite pass time of media these days. When they have no better wonder like a human face fish or a Yeti to show, they come up with showing politicians rubbing off on each other with more bad than good.

Politics is India is majorly associated with the Leftists and Rights who are always busy bashing each other in public and doing little good work. However this is the current scenario as 60 odd years ago India was a free but divided state due to politics and the politicians. There was a little good work done there but the repercussions still exist and the current generations are facing its brunt.

This perfect opposition has created a balancing stand for media which has its perfect platform to be the Doberman instead of the “kutta” and create its own identity by being the cat who walks away with the cake when two monkeys fight over it. Though the media is bashed as well but people believe in the dirty politics played by the media against the politicians. The events or facts or even the minutest information shared by media is taken to be the inside story without inspecting for the truth.

INDIA:

India is the perfect conglomeration of various ethnic groups and cultures where communal harmony is an everyday habit. It is also a land of hypocrisy where communal violence if any is dealt with so much love that it leaves many civilians dead and others crippled for life.

India has always been a major country in the southern Asian peninsula and more than any other SAARC country it has had a major positive influence on other nations that is to say it has been less involved in either keeping terrorists as pay-in guests or bombing other countries for the sake of it. Not like India has been at its behavior best as she has been majorly involved with some of the crude war fares.

With slogans like “atithi devo bhava” and “God’s own country” it hasn’t been able to gather much positivity around it as many Scarlet Keelings get raped with every foreigner and tourist that comes to India is welcomed by testosterone high men who use their “tool” to think on seeing White people especially girls.

A country if not rich in resources but rich in culture, has over a period of time developed itself too much for any other poor nation (though it is a derogatory term and is not to be used as laid by the UN). Now India happens to be a developed country with great amount of self sufficiency even though it has a huge amount to pay off to the World Bank.

India is the house of varied gods and goddess who appear in various forms and have done a lot of good to their devotees. Religion in India is a major sensitive agenda and anyone including the media loves to finger it for their own good (mostly in monetary value). To the outside world India is that land of epitomic symbolism of goodness that no one dares to wish against her good will except for extreme orthodox groups which hold a long term unnecessary grudge and haven’t been able to move on.

India is shown by media in a number of ways both good and bad. Though for the media India is that golden goose which gives golden eggs everyday and media sells the eggs to the highest bidder. Gone are the days when India was the “sone ki chidiya” today it is a toy and less of a mother land to all those people who pledge that India is my country but can do anything to sell her off in a foreign market. All this is openly broadcasted by the media to fill its pockets and earn more than just the livelihood.